There’s no place for honesty if someone doesn’t like it


So here comes the honesty, or at least as much honesty as I can possibly put on here.  You see that’s the problem and probably why I lost a lot of my blogging inspiration, I can’t always be honest, well let me rephrase: the things I do post here are honest, the stuff I can’t be honest about just never makes it on the page, which in general just defeats the purpose of the page, doesn’t it?  I mean I wanted a place where I could write about my emotions, share my feelings and share some real life including the stuff that is not rainbows and unicorns.  It’s not working though.  You see I have a bunch of family and friends and then of course there is my husband who reads my blog, and if I posted my feelings sometimes I’d probably be in a world of shit, or I would at least have a migraine from listening to someone whine about me having the nerve to write whatever it is I shared on MY blog.  So now when I sit down and write a post I have to ask: Who will read this post? Will that person be offended by it? and quite honestly the answer is yes far too many times, because people can be babies and they tend to upset easily so instead I walk on eggshells and I scrap half the posts I write before I ever publish them.  I should have made this blog anonymous, but at the time I created it I wanted my friends and family to be able to see it, and sometimes I still do, there are just times when I wish certain people wouldn’t read it at certain times. And that doesn’t mean all the posts I scrapped were mean or anything, some are just about belief systems or views on touchy subjects,  or there was that one time  when I wrote that post about the main reasoning I started a serious relationship with the husband was because he was good in bed, I gotta say I was a little nervous I would end up with a comment from my in-laws, thankfully if they read it they just ignored it, but that isn’t always the case, and if it’s ignored then you have to sit and wonder if they did read it, and what they thought, and it makes the whole blogging process become headachy(yes spell check I am aware it is not a word, but it should be)  I don’t know, just some honest rambling from me….the not so rainbow and unicorn me!


Ghost Windsock Halloween Craft


Who’s ready for another ghost craft? I promise the next one will not involve ghosts lol, but this one is so fun and you don’t need a lot to make it so I wanted to share.

What you need:
Rectangle White Foam paper(you will want it to be a larger piece)
Black Marker
Glue(we used glue sticks)
Trash Bags(white)
Something to hang it up by(we used pipe cleaners, you could also use yarn, string ect)

What to do:
1. Cut trash bags into long strips(they do not have to be even)

2. Apply glue along the bottom edge of the foam paper

3. Stick the pieces of trash bag to the glue so they are hanging down length wise

4.Draw a ghost face in the center of your white foam paper

5.  Fold the foam paper and glue the 2 edges together(to form a sphere)

6. Add a hanger(we used pipe cleaners and put holes in the sides to attach it)

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Electronics and Video Games, could they be causing it all?


The other night was particularly rough for us as far as my son and schooling went,, we basically found out that he is failing one class pretty badly, he admitted to not paying attention and he has been overly talkative.  A is one of those kids that loves to be the class clown, making other people laugh makes him happy no matter how or where he does it, which tends to cause some issues in school.  As far as focus goes people like to lay the blame on his ADHD and they are probably right, but they also like to blame his inability to remember things on his ADHD, and that can’t be the case. Do you know how I know? Because he has no problem remembering things he wants to remember! At any rate we decided to finally take away the video games and tablet until he choose to do better at school.  My sweet boy sat at the kitchen table for at least 2 hours, snot dripping out of his nose, drool hanging off his mouth bawling like his dog had just died, I kid you not, my husband actually told me he thought maybe we should hide his shoe laces, he was so depressed, and all over video games…so as I tried not to lose my fucking mind, which was a pretty big challenge after the first hour went by with no sign of stopping, I started thinking a LOT.  I was thinking about what is different in society, or in life in general now than 25-30 years ago, Why are children struggling more often in school, and with life in general and ya know what I realized?

We are pretty much the 1st generation of gamers raising children!

Which lead me to more thinking about all of the things that have changed in the last 25-30 years.
People as a whole are a lot less healthy
Marriages seem to have more problems, Divorce rates are up
Children tend to focus less on studies and playing outside has become almost obsolete
Mental health diagnosis and the amount of people on prescription drugs has skyrocketed

and that’s just the tip of the iceberg!

I know gamers are hating right now, They are shouting at their screens that video games and electronics are not the issue.  I get it I used to be a gamer and I am certainly addicted to my computer, but hear me out folks.

How many times did you come home to find your mother on facebook or pinterest and your father playing World of Warcraft or Call of Duty?  I know I didn’t ever.  How many of you called your mother a bitch or your father an asshole to their face? How many of you were not at all nervous when the school called your parents? Let me tell you, if I fucked up and the school said they were calling my mom, I begged them to change their mind, I once got the bi part of bitch out to my mother before I had a bloody mouth, and I wouldn’t even have thought to say anything disrespectful to my father as a child, and let me be clear by saying my father spanked me twice in my entire life, so he was by no means abusive, he was just scary because he was my dad and I was made to listen, it only took twice to put the fear of god into me, but that’s another story for another time.  At any rate, is it so crazy to correlate some of the behaviors of our children to the lack of parenting by adults, and to correlate the lack of parenting with the increase of electronic use?

You have to look at the facts and while I am not speaking of every man, woman and child out there because there is always exceptions I am speaking of the majority, I am speaking of what I see in my home, in my friends and families homes and all over the internet.

More and more children are focusing less on an education, less on being active, less on sports and more on video games, tablets, computers and cell phones.
Seriously I have seen 7 year old’s with cell phones…that to me is absurd!


More and more men focus so much on electronics that they forget they even have a family ( In my house we call this tunnel vision because unless a piece of the debris falls in his lap the whole house could explode and he’d never even know it while he is playing a video game)
And seriously how many know the feeling of being horribly aggravated because you are doing everything, your husband walks in the door walks to the game system and starts playing as if nothing else exists?


More and more women are spending their days on facebook and pinterest, rather than keeping their houses clean, and spending quality time with their children.  How many parents go days without having a conversation with their kids while they are doing absolutely nothing else?
Do you know how many times I see status’ on facebook from women claiming it is sooooo HARD to keep their house clean, or find time to play with their children, or cook a meal for their husbands,   Let me let you in on a little secret it is not hard, you just have to put down the keyboard.


We live in a world of internet, computers, game consoles, smart phones and tablets, and I have to say I think it is ruining the modern day family.

Do you know that as of 2011 15% of divorces cited video games as the reasoning? Seriously? I believe it because I can’t count the number of women I see or hear every day talking about how all their husband does is play video games or watch TV…

Do you also know that children who come from a divorced home are more likely to get a divorce themselves, and that children of parents who play video games are more likely to also play them, so how many divorces will now be indirectly caused by video games?

Do you know how many times I see someone complaining of being broke then buying the latest game to come out or people getting government assistance while carrying around an I-phone, or people begging for food for their children on a computer they own with internet they pay for?


Yet we still can’t believe that maybe just maybe electronic technology could be a large part of the problems today?

I know I know but technology makes life easier, you can:
Get ideas online
Pay your bills online
Use your phone to deposit a check
Call someone if you a broke down
Shop without leaving your house
Listen to music anywhere anytime
Record your favorite shows to watch later

or It’s FUN, it relieves stress…but does it relieve stress or could it secretly be causing yours?

If you ask me I think they may just be degrading the quality of life.  So many people have lost perspective on what is and what is not important!  How many times do you see someone answer one of those quiz questions that asks something like “What 5 things could you not live without” with things like: my cell phone, my tablet, my video games, my TV, my makeup, sunglasses…and other things like that? Ya know what you can’t live without? Food and water? You know what would make the quality of your life less? lack of friends, family, love, integrity, honor, a bed to sleep in and other things like that, but those are never the answers given.  WHY?

Because too many people these days have lost track of what is truly important, and have become reliant on a game system or a computer, or a phone for happiness, The problem is they aren’t creating happiness, they are creating distant family units who lack quality time.  If they created happiness then depression would not be on the rise.  Think about it!
What’s your take on it?

Ghost Mason Jars Halloween craft


This is another relatively simple craft that can be done by most ages and looks super cute inside or sitting outside with your jack o lanterns

What you need:
Mason  Jar
White paint
Black paint or permanent marker
flame-less candle or battery operated lights

What to do:
Remove the lid from the mason jar
Paint the outside of your mason jar white and let dry
Once it is dry use black paint or a permanent marker to draw a face on (As you can see one of my munchkins wanted their ghost to be a dog)
Put the flame-less candle or lights into your jar and enjoy

I love this craft because it will last for years to come.

Glue Ghosts Halloween Craft


This is a simple and fun Halloween Craft 


Here’s What you need:
Foam paper
googly eyes 
wax paper

Here’s what you do:
cut felt to look like bow ties and buttons 
Lay out a sheet of wax paper
Squeeze glue onto it in the shape of a ghost
add googly eyes
add bow tie and buttons
Let Dry, when it is completely dry you can pull away the wax paper and have just the ghosts

After drying the ghosts will be a little more transparent, we hung ours in a window 🙂 

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She drew WHAT??? Am I…oh my..yes I think I am


So last night I was tucking Miss C into bed when I noticed a paper on the floor.  I picked it up and it was a picture she drew, so I asked her what it was and she said she drew it at school. I must admit the picture had me a little confused:

As soon as I looked at it funny she started to clear up the confusion:
C: Don’t worry Mommy I will put pants on you, Don’t look at that
C: Uhhh I told you not to look at it
Me: Wait what is that?
C: gets close to my ear and whispers “that’s your pee pee”
Now I have to confess my tired butt didn’t even see the lovely yellow part until:
C: don’t worry I will change that to water
Me: Wait What? AM I PEEING?
C: Uhh it’s okay mommy I will make a bowl and it will just look like you are pouring water

I wonder what her teacher thought of this lovely drawing of her mommy, or how many friends snickered when she said Mommy is peeing….and just look at that hoohaa I have…that doesn’t look right…I swear it’s a hoohaa…stop laughing people!
I also have to wonder who all the little girls in the picture are….and is that a radio with music notes? So if I have it right I was having a dance party, rocking out to the music and peed all over…

And this is how my daughter sees me? A party girl who can’t control her bladder….Thanks C Thanks…but that was many years ago 😉

The cat is always plotting something


Since we came home Pippy (for those who don’t know that’s our cat) has been acting all needy and weird, which really isn’t like her at all, she constantly crawls on us and meows or stares at the door and cries.  I am pretty sure she misses the cats at my Dad’s house and she’s lonely and since we are moving soon getting a new playmate for her is out of the question, so I decided we should get her some new toys to keep her busy.

This is one of the toys I got from Walmart

I was all excited because it makes noise and moves around and I thought for sure she will love this toy,  I brought it home and proudly announced to her that I got her a new toy,  Set it up, put it on the floor, and she wouldn’t even look at it.  So here I am on the ground like a cat batting at the little chirping ball and the feather, while she looks at me like I lost my mind, which in retrospect I probably should have video taped, it would have been quality entertainment.  No interest, not even a tiny bit, I think she sniffed the feather once. So we decide to just leave it there because maybe she will play with it later, maybe she just isn’t into an audience when she plays. 1 day goes by, nothing, 2 days go by, nothing, a week goes by and she hasn’t so much as looked at the damn toy I was excited about.  Well last night the husband throws it in our room to get it out of the middle of the living room floor.  At 1 am I had a small panic attack, when I woke up to the sound of chirping, Do you know the things that run through your mind when you are half asleep and your bedroom starts chirping in the middle of the night? None of it is good let me tell you!  I mean it’s not like I thought my bedroom was possessed or anything, because that would be crazy.  Of course the cat would wait until it was in the perfect place and at the perfect time to play with the damn toy….I think she plotted the whole thing, cats are sly like that, sure they look innocent enough, and they cuddle you when your sick, or in a bad mood, but that’s just to reel you in for the kill 🙂


Lost inspiration, or just fluffing


I haven’t been posting much lately   but it’s because I have been working on something special, something I am going to tell you guys about real soon, that and for 7 hours a day I have no munchkins and no husband home, this does 2 things:
#1 While I know this should give me more time to blog, I find myself doing all of the things I could never do before, like sleep, or paint my toenails, take a bath, the kind where I am not considering drowning myself because it’s the 5th time one of my munchkins has came in to ask where something was or if they could have something, or turn into a lazy ass and watch 3 seasons of the Amazing Race that I never got the chance to watch, okay it is more like every season of the Amazing Race that I never got to watch, and I want to feel guilty about fluffing on the things I should be doing but I kind of feel great, the thing is that’s where the guilt comes in I actually feel guilty for not feeling guilty…and how does that work?

#2 With my whole family gone most of the day I have a hard time finding anything to write about…I’ve lost my inspiration

But hey I promise I’ll start looking for it, like right after I finish the Amazing Race 😉

We <3 Autumn craft


In honor of the first day of fall, I am sharing a mixed sensory, craft project using all those leaves that if you are not living where I am are falling in your yard 🙂

What you need:
Dry Leaves
construction paper
fall stickers

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What to do:
crunch up your leaves
use glue to write We ❤ Autumn
Sprinkle crushed leaves over the glue, let dry then shake off any excess
Add stickers

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We ended up framing ours but didn’t get a picture of it like that

Autumn leaf crafts


We love doing crafts and making decorations for the different seasons and holidays, and as many of you know Autumn is my favorite time of year, so of course we do lots of crafts to celebrate 🙂

The first one I am sharing is our Autumn trees.

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What you need:
Paper(I used white)
Pen or Pencil
foam leaves(I used the sticker kind so it was easier)

What to do:
Draw a tree trunk and some branches on your paper, then add leaves

Yep it is truly that simple, to mix it up a little I drew 2 different types of tree trunks and branches, 1 for each munchkin 🙂

The 2nd activity may be even easier 🙂

leaf magnets

What you need:
Large Foam Leaves
Googly Eyes
Glitter Glue

What you do:
Glue googly eyes onto the leaves
Draw on a mouth with the glitter glue
Attach magnet to the back of the leaf

And Viola you have cute little magnets to hang on your fridge for fall 🙂